Most people regard feelings as:
Positive OR Negative which means trying to experience as much of the positive and avoid as much of the “negative” as something that will create bad things or even attract negative situations.
I’ll not go into why we do this right now, there is a lot of reasons and conditioning around it.
I’ll talk about what this creates.
A split inside of us. Within ourselves.
What that means is that the moment we say “I don’t want to feel like this” “I’m fine”, “I am strong”, “I can’t be like this” or “Don’t worry” “Come on get over it” or even better “If you don’t stop crying you need to go to your room”, we decide to avoid seeing the part of us that is experiencing the “negative” feelings.
But, this part is not just going to go away if we pretend it isn’t there.
It will stay there and try to surface in EVERY SINGLE CHANCE given, until it is acknowledged. Working independently since we do not know (or better we do not want to know) it exists.
If you are not accepting a part of you, you will always feel like something is missing, there is something wrong with you. And you’ll keep sabotaging yourself.
Now, imagine how many times you have done this to yourself and calculate how many fragmentations of you exist…
Now…The actual struggle and broken record of negativity comes when we are afraid to actually give our feelings some space and integrate ourselves. And when we accumulate more and more and more the vicious circle and downward spiral to being trapped in this is a reality.
The funny part is that most of the times, the actual feeling will go away if we let ourselves feel it, call it by it’s name, accept it.
And believe me, if you try not to feel the negative feelings, you are not experiencing the positive ones either. #youcant
You end up living in a constant sedation of “I can’t feel anything anymore” “Nothing excites me”, “I feel numb”. #thatsucks
If you can’t see it, you cannot deal with it.
